Couple Seeking Woman: The Needle in the Haystack
Venice Bloggs and Ryan Bloggs are a husband and wife team that write one of the best sex blogs on the internet: FuckBlogging.com.
Venice Bloggs was asked by The Sex.com Blog if she would be willing to do a guest post for them and she was nice enough to oblige. So please enjoy her take on the complications of finding a woman for a happily married threesome.
On our blog, I’ve made it very clear that I was ready and willing to lose my “girlginity,” which basically means being with a woman sexually. But that doesn’t mean that because I’ve had a sexual awakening I’m ready to pounce on anything with a pair of hot tits and a pussy, and it certainly doesn’t mean I get a free pass to fuck any woman I want. There’s a process, if you will, in seeking a woman who we will be allowing into our lives. This complicated process would be akin to finding the proverbial needle in a haystack.
By putting our business out there for the world to read and judge us by, I realize that I might be scaring off potential “partners,” but conversely, it will also allow me to broadcast my requirements, my prerequisites, and my standards – something everyone should do with every sexual partner in order to get as close to exactly what they want. Be picky, don’t settle.
I won’t be jumping into anything because I have so much to consider. I’m not single; I’ve found my soul mate. But now, I’m on a mission to find my “holemate,” so to speak. I’m not looking for a female version of my man or a second wife for him. For a relationship like mine and Ryan’s, our ideal triad would be filled by a female agreeable to a no-strings-attached situation, which should not be misconstrued as her constant availability for a booty call. In fact, that is the exact opposite of what I want. I’m interested in finding a friend, a good friend, one who I can talk to and understand my marriage and be open with my limitations.
Ryan has been a loyal man to me, so rewarding him by adding a female to our sex life while also exploring my bi-curious side would serve us both. And I would absolutely love to spoil my man in a safe, reciprocated way. We’re a territorial couple, but there are exceptions. Ryan would allow me and her to be 100% intimate with each other in any way. However, I’d want Ryan to be with me. This is where things get complicated, as I do not want Ryan to be a creeper in the corner.
Good luck – and I completely agree on not settling. Once you’ve found your soul mate though finding the right person to measure up will not be easy!